It's just that the society tries to pass us through a mold and determine, on a macro level, who/what we become. Every day we get orders, from the alarm very early in the morning, from LASTMA, from our boss at work, and from clueless politicians. And once again it's a good thing. We don't want people showing up late at work, or commotion on the highways or everyone taking up arms against the politicians.
Unfortunately, it doesn't stop there. Most of us only live to meet expectations. Expectations of others. We let them set the goals. We, invariably, follow orders all our life.