I am a thirty year old drop out and I don't know how to live as I already wasted years living a virtual life until now. How can I start my life again? Or is my only option to quit?
Answer: (By Virali Modi)
I'm a 23 year old drop out from the 12th grade. I don't have any degrees or talents that make me extraordinary. I can't draw, I can't sing, I can't paint, and to be honest, I don't have adequate grammar (not something I'm proud of). The only thing that I do have is a positive attitude, confidence, and optimism.
You're only 30 years old and you're ready to give up. I feel sorry for you, I really do. No, not because you don't have money, are unemployed, or because you've wasted all your savings on alcohol – rather, I feel sorry because you think this is the end and you're ready to quit.
When I was 14, I went into a coma. I was on life support, I couldn't breathe and I wasn't responding to any medicine. The doctors wanted to "pull the plug" because there was no chance that I'd survive. My dad – everyone, except my mom knew I wasn't going to survive. She didn't know. She begged the doctors to keep me alive until my birthday (which was in 8 days), they accepted her plea, on one condition. They said that if I didn't respond on my birthday, they would take her signature and pull the plug, she agreed. On my birthday, I opened my eyes. The doctors kept me on life support until I fully came out of my coma on the 5th of October. If it wasn't for my mom, I wouldn't be writing this answer right now. I wouldn't be alive.
After my hospitalization, we realized that we were bankrupt, we sold all of our assets to support my medical treatment until the government funded insurance covered the remaining costs. We had to empty the apartment we were staying in, and my dad eventually found a job. We started living in a congested one bedroom "apartment". Was life easy for us? No. Definitely not. I was 15 at that time, and I could barely move. I didn't have my privacy, and it was really awkward.
We had everything, enough money to live a lavish lifestyle, a business, cars, a house, and expensive clothes, electronics, and Chinaware. We sold all of it. We went from rich to poor. We had to start fresh. We had used up all of our savings as well. It was difficult to adjust to such a contrasting lifestyle. But there wasn't much I could do about it.
Back to my point, I'm 23 and a 12th grade dropout, I don't know what I'm going to do in the future. I have high hopes that I'll enter the modeling/acting industry, but I realize that it's a 25% chance that I'll actually end up being successful, but 25% is still a lot! I do have my confidence which helps me master any job that I'm given.
My advice would be to strengthen your confidence. Have the knack to learn different things. Start doing things which will broaden your mind and help you understand your strengths and weaknesses. Stop wasting your money on alcohol. Start looking for a job, even if it isn't paying that much. Make a goal (anything), and set out to achieve it.
Look, everyone has bad times in their lives, you're experiencing one right now, you'll get through it. Just don't lose perspective of your goals, aspirations, and dreams. You can't give up whenever life throws you a curve ball. Learn to fight and dodge it.
Remember what Dory said, "Just keep swimming, just keep swimming." Go with the flow.
Isn't she inspiring? I especially love her recommendation on having a positive attitude, confidence, and optimism.