This year that is who I have increasingly become. An individualist. Less sensitive to the society I live in. And in today's post I will be sharing the reasons I have taken that path and what the journey has been like.
Growing up, I was never been good at fitting in. I found it extremely hard to do things just because I saw others do them or just because people expected me to do them. So I had been naturally wired to become an individualist. I found it much easier to do things I could back with my independent thinking than do the things society demanded. My childhood was a constant struggle between being independent and fitting in. Sometimes the criticisms I got from people pushed me to abandon my independent mindset and fit in, then, later, when I found fitting in extremely frustrating I went back to my independent self.
As an adult, I have learned to overcome that struggle. I no longer try to fit in. And more recently, I have been going full-speed in the direction of my independent thinking without any concern for the impressions I leave in the minds of those around me. And this time around it's not just because I am naturally independent-minded. It's because of the following extra reasons:
- I am not happy with the Nigerian society. Nothing inspires me about us. As a country, our actions are mostly ignoble. We hold on to too many unreasonable habits and we let the unthinking rich gluttons always have their way. So I try hard to not become like most of the people around me. I weed out the influence of the society on my thoughts and actions.
- I am obsessed with being the best I can. I see myself as a project; a work-in-progress. I have given myself very high standards. I have a brain and I am going to make the most of it. I'm going to do unique things. And in achieving this I am increasingly drawn away from crowd reasoning.
- My goals in life are uncomplicated and few. Most of the things that drive the people around me have no significance to me. As a consequence I have very little reason to act like everyone around me.
- I like trying new things and taking uncommon risks. Somehow, societal norms aren't built around taking uncommon risks. Societal norms are a recommendation of well-worn paths.
- All the people I look up to are individualists. They have a mind of their own that dominates everything they do. They care very little about the public's opinion and recommendation.