- Hoping to win a lottery
- Waiting for some very rich man to adopt you as his protégé.
- Expecting an out-of-this-world opportunity
Ordinarily, these have nothing to do with achieving success in life. Not everyone of us see success as being a billionaire or as having free afternoons or as becoming the president of Nigeria. But the real trouble is that most of us treat in the same way the very desires that our fulfillment/success in life is built on. We don't go after our dreams and suddenly expect to achieve them. We keep living life the way we are unhappy with and expect a different outcome. We keep doing things the same way over and over again, and then expect something different as a result.
The most sincere way to put it is that we don't pursue the success we seek and we expect to achieve it. We bother more about what we could lose in the pursuit of our happiness and success rather than the fulfillment we stand to gain. We seek the no failure path to success. We try to do whatever we are doing more intensely and hope for something extra-ordinary. We hold on to what is not working for us because we would rather have a bird in hand than seek out the flock in the forest.
The less obvious wrong way to success is to not go after it directly, to not want to give up anything for it.